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People Keep Asking Why Osinachi Nwachukwu Didn't Leave her Toxic Marriage. But They Know Why.
People believe her husband brutalized her to death and she had many chances to leave because of her talent and access to support but she didn't LEAVE until her eventual death.
Nigerian gospel singer Osinachi Nwachukwu died last month. At first, the story was that she died of throat cancer. Then there was news that her mentally and physically abusive husband kicked her chest, and she passed on.
Since the news of her death, people have not relented in blaming her for staying in an abusive situation, for not alerting the information thirsty online family of her predicament. Some believe the church’s stance on divorce contributed to her staying. Most people would have never listened to her songs again had she divorced. If she divorced, she would have shattered their fragile ideal.
The question ‘Why didn’t she leave’ has been rephrased and asked in a thousand ways. Why, Why, Why.
I agree that no reason justifies staying in a relationship that puts your life in danger. None.
It is a toxic question that our people ask the dead. In my country, no matter how you die, they will make it your fault. I attended a 96-year-old man’s burial, and people still blamed him for passing because he insisted…
