All true. I was keen on breastfeeding, so when I had my first child and wasn't lactating like other women I felt bad. I tried everything, from overeating to using the herbs other mums suggested. Nothing worked. And I felt a lot of shame that I couldn't produce gallons of breast milk and exclusively breastfeed. Today I am kinda happy my boobs still perky after 3 kids because my kids were not breastfed for too long or dependent on breast milk for all their food… It was also epidural for all three births. It’s the best thing ever. I don't pretend I can bear pain, so I didn't let anyone deter me.